The title of this post alone freaks me out. I am so sick and tired of people trying to make me feel guilty because I don't want to breast feed my baby. It's really no one's business whether or not I'm going to breast feed. I get that boobie milk is better for the baby. I have a problem with having my baby latch on to my boob though. I decided a while back that I would just pump, if I can. That way, the baby is getting the milk and nutrients but not having to latch on to my boob. Apparently this isn't good enough for some. "Your breast milk prevents your baby from getting this and that and it's just so much better for your baby!" So, if my baby latches on to my boob or drinks the boob milk from a bottle, isn't he still going to get the same freaking nutrients? It's the same damn milk, is it not?
I have tried, several times, to explain to this one certain person that I just have issues with breast feeding. Of course, every time I see her she brings it up and yesterday was no different. She informed me that I needed to speak to my doctor about my issues. My response was, "I don't care what my doctor or you or anyone else has to say to me, I am not having my baby latch on to my boob! It's just not going to happen!" And her argument that having the baby actually latch on is better is a crock of shit. Then she tried to tell me I have issues with breast feeding because I wasn't breast fed. WHAT? Seriously, Lady! My issues stem from my own personal thoughts and feelings, not someone else's.
It doesn't make me a bad person or a bad mother if I don't breast feed. Every person is different. What if I can't breast feed? What then? Will the subject be dropped? Will they think I'm a bad mother then? Who gives people the right to push their feelings onto me and then try to make me feel guilty when I don't agree? And the best part...this person doesn't even have kids and has never experienced any of it.
If a woman chooses to breast feed, great! I don't think poorly of her. So, why think poorly of me if I choose not to breast feed? And the sad part about all of this is...my baby will still be getting my boobie milk. He won't be latching on and 'sucking and licking' as one book described it (YUCK!), but he will be getting it out of a bottle. So, how is there even an argument to begin with?
JUST LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE!! If you want to breast feed, then have your own baby!
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I would only honestly want to breast feed for the help it gives to weight loss and because I'd be curious.
The act of breast feeding means nothing for the baby. I would think of it as a cool trick I could do but nothing more.
Thing is. That's all me. I'm with you. I'd punch someone telling me how to raise 'ma baby'...
You can tell that person that your particular Doctor doesn't care whether you breastfeed or not. He is not a big promoter. As long as your child gets feed he doesn't care whether it is Boobie or not. I know for a fact that he would tell you that. And it's your right to chose and no one else. My child wasn't breastfeed and he has been a very healthy child. I wish I could have breastfeed only for the money factor and it helps you lose weight a little faster but I wasn't able to but I still ended up with a healthy child.
I have read that pumping alone can not keep up your milk production. There's something bout the baby "technique" that keeps you sustaining a milk supply. If all you do is pump, it will eventualy cause you to dry up.
My wife had a huge aversion to breastfeeding with our oldest. Somehow she changed or "came around" with the 2nd baby. she breastfed her for 1 year. It sure does help with the cost of formula, but extra groceries go into you. It also makes you the sole supply of food for the baby which limits your range and max time away from the baby (i.e. freedom).
Just be glad with today's technology you have the freedom to choose.
It's me, Melissa.....
AMEN Angie! Seroiusly.....people can do what they want with their own children. They don't need to be pushing their ideas onto you. I won't be breastfeeding in any shape or form. I'm not wanting to extend the "pregnancy" further out by having to limit the types of food I eat or anything like that. I was bottle fed and I have an amazing immune system. My baby will get formula and I'm sure he will turn out just as healthy as any of the other babies. I really want my husband to help out in the feeding process. Why should it be limited to just me?!?! I don't give a crap what you decide to do....considering I won't be the one feeding it or buying the formula for. Why can't the majority of people understand that their opinion needs to stay an opinion. You do what you want Angie!!! I will support you! At least you're going to try to pump! I give you props for that! That's more than I'm doing! Oh - one more thing, if you want to work out after your cleared by your doctor, you have to limit your exercise to almost nothing because if you do exercise regularly your milk will go sour. NASTY! I want to work out and slim down ASAP. I've heard that breastfeeding can help you loose weight...but everyone I know that has done that has really struggled with losing weight. I don't know if it really can help or not. Whatever, I'd rather stick to the trusty eliptical and tone. haha
I don't plan on doing it either Angie when I have kids so right there with you. No one can convince me otherwise. It creeps me out.
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